Mason is here everyone! He is officially three weeks old now, sooo, this means I am officially a seasoned mom of two, right? Not so much. We are still getting the hang of the things around here. Life with two for sure throws a little curve ball but it’s nothing you can’t handle. At least that’s what I tell myself.
First of all:
Born at 6 pounds and 19 inches of pure sugar, this little guy for sure brightens our world.
Here are my confessions as a brand new ( second time) mom:
“Sleep when the baby sleeps” no longer pertains to my life. When people tell me to try and sleep when the baby sleeps, I laugh a little because there is so much less sleep with a toddler and a newborn. My first born, Jacob, has been thrown into a complete sleep regression and is waking up in the middle of the night and is WIDE awake at or before 5 AM ( We are working on that).
Our house has become a disaster area. While i’m feeding Mason, Jacob, plays carelessly with all of his toys. He brings toy after toy out and plays like it’s the first time he has seen it. I am lucky that Jacob can occupy himself and play for HOURS but the house becomes a wreck in about 2 minutes.
The anxiety has been worse for me this time around. For some reason, the first week we were home with Mason, I was a huge ball of nerves. It’s like I thought I was going to break him or something. We survived. Each week has gotten better with the anxiety and we are only on week three.
The pressure to nurse is so strong. I nursed for a few days and pumped for a few weeks but now we are purely on formula. I truly believe that fed is best. I am PRO breast feeding and PRO formula feeding. It’s what’s best for your family. What I don’t like is when people ask you tons of questions about why or why you aren’t nursing or when people judge you either way! Women should feel comfortable nursing OR bottle feeding in public without being judged, especially by other moms.
I haven’t left the house since Mason was born but only a handful of times. It doesn’t help that the weather is so cold right now, it feels like antarctica outside but also the thought of going out with my two boys alone is so daunting. We will get there but for now I am staying in my fuzzy christmas socks and maternity leggings until it gets a tad warmer.
Speaking of maternity pants, lets talk baby weight. I am one of the lucky ones that fat likes to stick to me when I am pregnant. It’s going to take some time, but I will get this baby weight off. I like doing Weight Watchers because it holds me accountable. I’ve already started tracking points and working on figuring out the new “freestyle” plan. Weight Watchers is good for me because it helps with portion control also. I can’t wait to start working out after I get approved by Doc at my six week appointment. I want to start by walking and doing a mixture of the beach body workouts.
I could go on and on with my confessions but here is some advice especially if you are a new mom or a new mom of two:
-Take care of yourself- take that long shower, drink the glass of wine, eat the piece of chocolate. Those first few weeks and months of motherhood you are purely in survival mode.
– Its OKAY if your first born watches some TV. Sometimes TV is the only way I can get a second to do something. No it’s not a babysitter but if it distracts my toddler for 3 minutes, i’ll take it!
– Give your first born a few more hugs, snuggles and a little more patience. They are going through a lot too.
– Love on your partner. If you are as lucky as me and you have someone who is there by your side every step of the way, a simple thank you and I love you goes a long way.
One more confession, while my new life with a toddler and newborn may be really hard right now, I wouldn’t change a thing. The love I have for these two boys of mine outweigh any diaper blow outs or toddler temper tantrums. Seeing them together melts my heart.