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Fear can completely cripple you, deprive you of happiness, and keep you from going after your hopes and dreams. Not only that, but did you know that fear can make you physically sick?

Each time you feel fear, it triggers something called the “fight-or-flight” stress response in your body. If there is a cumulative buildup of the stress hormone, it can lead to disorders in our automatic nervous system. This can cause IBS, headaches, high blood pressure, etc. I don’t know about you but this makes me afraid of fear! How is that even possible?

The time that I feel the most fearful is at night, right before I fall asleep. Sometimes I can lay there and the thoughts of my deepest fears creep to the surface. It’s not the darkness that causes this fear, it’s the silence of the night. When I start to worry and let the fear come in, that’s when I start praying. I pray that my husband comes home safely after his shift, I pray for my son, I pray for my family members and friends, I pray for peace. If all else fails, I turn on Nick at Night and watch episodes of Full House, Friends and Fresh Prince of Bel Air until I drift off into sleep.

I like to call fear a four letter word because I tend to make situations ten times worse in my mind because of it. I can get myself all in a tizzy worrying about things that are out of my control. What I’ve realized is that most of the time you just have to let go and let God take care of you. Let your faith carry you.



Happy Monday Y’all!



Comparison is the Thief of Joy.

It’s so easy to get down on yourself sometimes. Life can get you down but I want you to remember that you are something special. I know we all have those days where we beat ourselves up. Yesterday was mine. As my husband says, sometimes you just have to pull up your pants on one leg at a time and just get going. Do something to make yourself feel better.

One thing I can be really bad about is comparing myself to others. This is a huge flaw and I hate it.  I know a lot of people have this problem but I have to tell you something that i’ve realized and that is…. Comparison is the thief of joy. It’s true. Someone is always going to be doing more than you. Someone is always going to be skinnier than you. Someone is always going to be smarter than you. Someone is always going to have more than you. Remember, this does not mean that they are better than you in any way.

When you start to have a pity party on how everyone is soooo much better than you, think about how far you’ve come. Think about how lucky YOU are.  Think about everything you’ve accomplished in your life. When that doesn’t work, think about how your best days are in front of you and not behind you. Put away those tissues and put on a smile, dear, because you are one of a kind.

Just a reminder on this Monday, everyone is fighting their own battle. Be thankful that you are alive because tomorrow is not a guarantee.


Happy Monday!!



Move on…

Sometimes we all lose inspiration. We all have dreams and hopes in our lives that we want to do but every so often we just get stuck. Sometimes we need to move on. What’s so hard is when our dreams depend on things that we have no control of. There’s the searching, waiting, wanting something so bad and doing everything you can do and it all falls through. It’s so easy to get discouraged when something that you want so bad doesn’t happen. It’s a huge letdown BUT there is hope! Luckily, for us, there is always right now to start new again. A fresh start.

They say that “when you fall off of a horse, you have to get back on.”  You may be scared, but you have to try again. Shake it off and let it go. Try it again. Don’t let your past mistakes ruin your future.  My goal is to focus on things that I CAN control and not what I can’t. I’m letting go of things that didn’t work out. Letting go takes effort and I’m on a mission to stay positive.

OH and by the way, you can tell who your real friends are when you’re going through a rough patch. No one wants to deal with a person who is down all the time.7189691_m (1)However, the ones who stick by your side even when your being a lousy fuddy-duddy couch potato who doesn’t call you back half the time, now those are the ones that will be your friends forever. (I’m sorry and thank you friends). Keep those people around AND most importantly, don’t forget to send them love when they’re in that place on the couch that you were.

We cannot change the past but we can change the future. We can’t change what happened yesterday or what we said a year ago. How great is it to know that we CAN change our actions of today, which will change our tomorrow. Move forward and keep pressing towards what you want in your life.  Remember that the pain is only temporary. Besides, you are SO much stronger than you think. If you are going through some rough times right now, you will get through this. Stay strong, gorgeous. God loves you and so do I!isaiah

P.S.– Sorry blog world that I have been MIA for the past month or so…wont happen again. Please forgive me! xoxo


The greatest battle is not physical but psychological.

       So you know those days when you are feeling out of it, feeling extra negative and just down? Well I had a whole week full of those kinds of days last week. I was not myself.  I was overwhelmed and exhausted and just plain down.

       The thing is….I’m not normally like that. I’m normally the one encouraging others to be positive and look on the bright side of life. I really had to lean on my family and friends last week to encourage me. They would say, “Lauren, just be positive, it’s all going to be OK” and I said, “ I AM positive, I’m positive I’m going to fail!”  Well with that kind of attitude, I will fail. The truth is, we all need encouragement every once and a while and there is nothing wrong with that.

       Everybody gets down on themselves, we are all human. Sometimes it really is ok, to just take a step back, and realize that you are being completely outrageous. One thing that causes this outrageousness is a little word called FEAR. We tend make situations ten times worse in our mind because of that little 4 lettered word. Well you know what…Don’t…Don’t make your fears bigger than your faith.

        Believe that everything is going to be alright because it is. Believe in yourself. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and make you want to be better tomorrow than you are today.

       “The greatest battle is not physical but psychological. The demons telling us to give up when we push ourselves to the limit can never be silenced for good. They must always be answered by the quiet the steady dignity that simply refuses to give in. Courage. We all suffer. Keep going.” –Graeme Fife


Happy Monday!


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